A few years ago, I picked up the book Woman, Food, and God by Geneen Roth and was intrigued, but I ended up putting it back and browsing around other books. It seemed to show up over and over again, but I never seemed to pick it up. Finally, a few months ago while shopping with my mom, I saw it on sale in a bookstore and took it as a sign to finally buy it and read it. Best decision I've made in a while! Lesson learned: listen to your intuition when book shopping.
If you've read my blog for a while now, you know that I'm all about stopping the diet cycle and moving towards a mindful or intuitive style of eating. It is way too common these days for women to be on the newest diet, eating 1200 calories (or less...) to lose weight, or just following a laundry list of self-imposed food rules from the nutrition gurus on the internet or magazines. I want people to move away from diets and rules, and take a good hard look at why you're dieting or what you imagine will happen when you finally lose weight.
Most people on diets do know the basics of healthy eating and good nutrition, but they still struggle with losing and regaining weight, or feeling out of control or addicted to food. Besides crazy diets, it's not lack of willpower. It's usually something else BESIDES the food. The promise of weight loss is enticing.
If I lose weight...I'll finally find a boyfriend, I'll make more friends, I'll get a new job. I'll be happy. I'll fix myself. I'll be able to deal with my feelings. It's hard giving up diets. It's hard to give up the goal of weight loss and learn to love yourself now, regardless of your size or shape.
It's much easier to be in a war with your weight than get in touch with your true self.
You are not broken. You don't need to be "fixed." You are you.
Diets make us believe that we are not good enough at the weight or size we're at and leads us in with empty promises of unlimited health and happiness. The diet industry wants us all to strive for the same, small size, but truth is we all come in different sizes and shapes, naturally.
You will not come to terms with food or your body from a place of hate, restricting, or binging.
It takes truth, awareness, presence, and the willingness to believe in yourself for real change. Whoa, this is a major shift in perception for many people
What happens when you actually listen to your body and free yourself from dieting and rules is quite amazing. You can truly listen to what your body and mind needs, and it's not always food. You can find a way of eating that is "relaxed, nourishing, free and life sustaining."
When you allow yourself to have ice cream everyday, you remove the restriction. When you stop dieting, you'll find freedom in your eating. It will regulate itself, and often your weight will start to shift as well. Weight loss may become easy and natural, and you'll be able to truly listen to what makes your body feel alive, healthy, and vibrant.
I really can't wait to read the rest of Geneen Roth's books because I pretty much highlighted every line in this book. It's a relatively short read, but if you're like me, you may need time to digest the life-changing thoughts. She is also a fantastic writer and says what needs to be said without any need for fluffy extras in the book. I really connected to this book, and yes, it is a spiritual (but not necessarily religious) book. I'll definitely be recommending it to many of my clients as well, and I hope you consider reading it too! (Amazon affiliate link)